Relationships are the stuff that life is made of. They hold us together and keep us going. Some of us have that inner circle of friends that we walk through life with, our encouragers, our confidants, the shoulders we cry on. Others of us feel more alone and sometimes we might find ourselves near the outside of that circle looking in.
I found myself in both of those places over the years, and over time, I realized something important about the latter. In hindsight, I came to understand that in one particular situation I wasn’t really being excluded. Instead, my own broken beliefs and misplaced attitudes were the issues. And I was hiding myself. It was perfectionism at its best.
Today I am so pleased to share an article with you written by my friend Jill McCormick. Jill is a gifted writer and speaker. She breaks inner issues down into portions I can handle and then she points me in the right direction so I can move forward.
This article, which was originally published on her website under the title of “How Perfectionism is Killing Our Relationships” really broke some things down for me. It reminded me of something very important I needed to keep in mind about my relationships.
Jill reminds me that:
•When I struggle in a relationship, the first place I need to look is inside my own heart.•
I’m telling you, friends, that’s not an easy thing to do. I think you’ll find that this article will help you whether you struggle with perfectionism or not. Inside, Jill takes a look at four ways perfectionism impacts our friendships. The great thing is she doesn’t just leave us holding those revelations and wondering what to do. She reminds us what God says about each one, and she gives us strategies the will help us move forward!
Have you ever been afraid to do something you felt you should do? Do you feel called but not qualified? Are you afraid of failure or rejection when you think about that next big step you need to take? I have been in those places so many times I couldn’t even begin to count them.
Sometimes, our next step feels huge, sometimes small. No matter the size, we can’t make it through life with facing a hurdle that needs to be crossed. Often the things we are afraid to do are not only meant to make us braver, but they are intended to help and encourage others along the way. In God’s big picture nothing is really about us at all. It’s all about reaching out and taking the hand of the ones behind us so we can walk together through life’s difficulties.
So today we are going to do a little fear fighting with a blog “extra.” One of my biggest fears has been the fear of writing, especially sharing my writing in public for others to see. This guest post at www.goinswriter.com tells my story of a pivotal step I needed to take to get past this fear of writing.
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Today, I have a guest post for you from my friend, Maree Dee. Maree graciously allowed me to repost an article named “Dispelling the Myths about Perfectionism” which she originally published on her blog, embracingtheunexpected.com.
Perfectionism comes in many forms. It can be complex and hard to understand. This article brings out some qualities or characteristics that are found in some people who struggle with perfectionism. Reading Maree’s insights might help you understand a friend or family member or maybe even yourself. If I had read a list like this a long time ago, I may have seen my own perfectionistic tendencies a lot sooner. Perfectionism hides well, but it’s all around us. I’m very appreciative to Maree for this excellent article and the perspectives she shares!
“Sometimes we just have to let go of our expectations and let God work!”
I read this text from my friend, Natasha, and I thought, “It’s true, isn’t it?” Our expectations can sometimes get in the way of God’s work.
Do you have trouble letting go of unrealistic expectations? Do you wish you could find more contentment in life? Read more for some truths from God’s Word that will help you let go and find peace.
Unrealistic expectations can rob us of our joy. If we can identify them we can sometimes begin see things from a new and different perspective. Read more to discover a simple way to identify unrealistic expectations in any area of your life! FREE PRINTABLE!
Join me again this week as we take a look at what the word “perfect” really means according to several very special Bible verses! Inside them, you’ll find insights that can change the way you think!
Have you ever wondered about that verse in the Bible that asks us to be perfect just like God is perfect? It’s Matthew 5:48 and it is often misunderstood. Join me today as we discuss the intent and meaning behind the word “perfect” in this verse.
For when I tried to keep the law it condemned me. So I died to the law – I stopped trying to meet all its requirements – so that I might live for God. (Galatians 2:19, NLT)
It stopped me in my tracks, that one little part in a paraphrase of Galatians 2:19 that said, “I stopped trying to meet all it’s requirements.”
Have you ever had that problem – the “I have to meet all the requirements” problem?
I sure have and I’ve come to realize how much it has hindered my spiritual life. Will you join me today as we talk more about it?
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Are you looking for strength in the new year? Me too! I really struggle with New Year’s Resolutions. As a matter of fact, I quit making them a long time ago. However, I finally realized that my perfectionism was the culprit keeping me from being successful in goal setting. I did two things. I set […]
Imperfect is not such a bad place to be, but it sure is hard to get there. I think as women we just want to have it all together. We want to do things just right. We feel regret and disappointment when things don’t go like we think they should. We feel that it is […]